Your Topic and a Winner!

Good Morning,

Thank you to those of you who entered my giveaway! I'll be contacting the winner and mailing the book out soon. I hope that it blesses you!

I thought I'd tackle one of the topic suggestions today:

What do you do when he is unwilling to speak to someone about this issue?

I think that there are a few steps to addressing this:

1. Pray! I know that probably seems obvious, but pray for the Lord to prompt your husband to seek healing for this addiction. He will answer. Pray also for your husband's sexual purity -- purity for his mind and thoughts. Pray for someone to come along and walk with your husband through this. God answers in the most amazing ways! Out of the blue, a man from our church approached my husband about doing a study on Every Man's Battle shortly after he had confessed his addiction to me. Only God could have done that!
2. Seek help for yourself: I sought out counseling before my husband. I didn't know how to cope with life and the situation I found myself in, so I called a Christian counselor I knew to set up appointments for myself. Eventually, my husband ended up going with me. I pray that as you seek healing for your own heart, that you will understand this problem isn't about you at all. When this happened to me, I saw my husband differently. I realized that He is a sinner, just like me, so in need of God's love, mercy and forgiveness. I pray that revelation will bring healing to your marriage and to your heart.
3. Seek alternative forms of help: Check out Celebrate Recovery in your area. Shortly after my husband's confession, I had come across an advertisement for a group who had a guest speaker on sexual addiction, so we went together. Also check out XXXChurch, which has an online recovery program.
4. Set up safeguards at home: You can set up internet monitoring programs on your computers and smartphones. We use SafeEyes. I have also set up a password for our Netflix streaming account and our XBox settings. Look at your home movie collection and throw out any that are tempting to your husband. We ended up throwing out four or five movies when we did this. I am now much more aware of what media we watch and allow into our home.

I hope that these steps will be helfpul to you. Please also check out the recommended books I have on my resource page so that you can invest in your own personal healing.

Praying for you, friends!